Is Asking For Help So Difficult For You?

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It’s not as unusual to happen as you think. I’ve seen many people having trouble asking for help. They don’t feel free to ask for help when they need it badly. They often face helplessness finding a way to ask someone for assistance and feel really awkward to ask. Lots of introvert people experience it on a regular basis. If you are the one of those who also feel that “asking for help” is itself a problem, then you are in the exact right place.

What’s Stopping You from getting help?

When a person is unable to seek help in need, there might be three possible scenarios in his mind. One, when he (everything written in this article is equally applicable for the women) thinks he can fix the issue by himself and he doesn’t need any additional help at all. Two, when he thinks there is no reliable person available nearby he can trust to get help and keeping the matter secret at the same time. Three, when he thinks it makes him feel weak and dependent on asking help to others.

It’s good if the first one is true for you. If you feel confident in solving your problem on your own, nothing can be better than that. It’s good to be self-sufficient and not bother others for small things.

If the second proposition is true for you, then you surely need to go out and make new friends. Trust me, it’s never too late to start good relations with people around you. Not only for good times, but they may also prove themselves worthy in your bad times too.

If the third premise is true for you, then it’s probably the most foolish idea a person can ever think of. The truth is, no one can be inferior by asking help in need, rather one can show stupidity by not solving a problem on time due to the fear of “asking for help”. In this situation, you need to consider a change in your mindset.

Why you should ask for help

A matter of fact is that it takes a great toll on the mental and physical state whenever we are stuck in a problem feeling helpless, irrespective of being men or women. Not only it makes your life miserable, but also feels burdened, frustrated, and hopeless. As a result, lots of pessimistic thoughts come into play in our mind, dragging you into negativity like depression, anxiety or stress, only due to the unsolved problems. You can save yourselves from all those rubbish kinds of stuff, by just asking a helping hand in time. There is no reason to feel inferior, rather it’s called a smart move.

How to ask for help

Step 1: Find the right person

First of all, you need to find the right person to approach. Not every sympathetic individual is capable of helping you in a difficult situation. You need to think about your need and then find the person who can help you accordingly. you can make a list of the people who can offer you the support. Plan to meet them personally one after one considering the possibilities. 

Step 2: Briefly explain why you are there

After initial pleasantry exchanges, briefly explain why you are reaching out to him/her. Tell him why you think that person can help you; how his resources, influence, knowledge or experiences would be a big solution to fix your trouble.

Step 3: Make your request specific

Always mention your request specifically, so that potential helper can fully understand exactly what you need and how he or she can serve your need meaningfully.

Step 4: Avoid phrases that sound weak

Follow an easy-going approach and a friendly way. Avoid any word that makes yourself very much burdened or desperate, as it looks like you have no other way to save yourselves except that only person.

Step 5: Choose wordings respectfully

Choose your words carefully, that shows respect for that person as well as yourself. Don’t use any rude words that convey he is not the only one who can help you.

Step 6: Thank helper gracefully

After getting helpful suggestion or contribution tell him how he made your life easy saying thanks in a graceful way.

Step 7: Rehearse

After setting up the above sequence of conversation and having a couple of rehearsals, when you feel confident enough, ask for help.

Go on!! Don’t be shy to say “Need Help”. An occasional cry for help will go a long way in solving your lot of issues and improve your quality of life. Life is too short to learn and do everything yourself without anyone’s help.


 

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